Do You Want Fear or Respect!!!

Are we sending our children mixed messages? Do we want our children to "Fear" us or "Respect" us. I think a lot of us want both, but I will take respect any day. Let me explain why. I don't want my children to fear anyone and I can't preach that message if I want them to fear me. The other day my son was acting out. Now, let me remind you he's only a year old, and I gave him that look and pointed my finger and said you better cut it out, two minutes later he pointed that same finger at me and started mumbling something. I guess he was just giving me back what I put out there. So now I'm forced to figure out another way to communicate with my one year old. Instead of putting my finger in his face and saying "NO" lol.

We have to learn that our children learn from what we do and not what we say. Let me give you another example of why I would rather my children to respect me than fear me. They will eventually become miniature walking hormones lol. Our daughters will enter womanhood and our sons will enter manhood. It's called good ole "Puberty" and they will definitely develop that "I know It All" syndrome.  Ladies I know you know what I'm talking about, been there done that and eventually fearing you will go right out the window, but if they develop a respect for you testing the waters won't be as rough lol. I'm not saying they will not test you if they respect you. You have to remember they are children. I guess what I'm asking you to do is just think about your approach when it come to talking to your children. Is it healthy to yell and scream and belittle them or pull them aside and have a conversation .

Have a wonderful day!!

Blog by Chloe Womack