Mama Never Said There Would Be Days Like This!!!

As I hang up the phone from a counseling session with one of my men-tees I realized that there are so many things that "MAMA NEVER TOLD US" and I guess she never told us because she felt it wasn't her place or maybe she was never told herself.  Or maybe there are just somethings we are meant to learn on our own. So tonight I decided to write down a couple of things "Mama Never Shared".

1) Men will be men and if you run into one that need tweaking just to fit into your standards keep it moving. It's not your job to change a man or try to make him better. 
2) If you allow a man to walk all over you, he will. A person will only do what you allow them too.
3) If you forgive someone, forgive them from the bottom of your heart and leave it in the past. Don't hold on to old hurt to hold it over a person's head.
4) Just because your a Christian doesn't mean you have to be stuffy in your relationship. It's OK to dance, smile, be a woman and enjoy the company of your mate, because we seem to forget that all relationships need to be refueled every now and then. It's OK to keep it exciting.
5) Don't tell everything that goes on in your relationship, because every relationship has problems and everything is not for everyone to know. If you need to talk to someone, seek the advice of a pastor, counselor or mentor. 
6) If a man hit you once 9 times out of 10 he will do it again.
7) You have to be a realist when it comes to your in-laws. Although, they may love you with all their heart and soul they are still his family. So enjoy the love while your in the relationship and if the relationship should end, don't be upset or surprised that they love the next person as much as they loved you. It's only fair.
8) MAKE SURE YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE AND WHAT YOU WANT AND STAND FOR BEFORE ENTERING ANY RELATIONSHIP. IT WILL HELP YOU AVOID A LOT OF HEARTACHE.

If you can think of a couple of other things Mama never said, don't be afraid to add it..

Chloe Womack

Are You Really Comfortable In Your Comfort Zone Or Are You Just Playing It Safe???

I really don't know why they call it "THE COMFORT ZONE", because although, we are comfortable, we are still uncomfortable. I know! I know! Your question to me is how can that be and my answer to you is "EASY". We all have held a position that we didn't like, but we stayed because it was quote unquote safe, we didn't have to worry about where our next paycheck would come from, we didn't have to worry about getting to know new people and we didn't have to worry about starting over, but that didn't mean we were comfortable. Sometimes, we were down right miserable. So the reality of the situation is we were never truly comfortable within the "Comfort Zone". We just felt safe!!!

Did you know that sometimes we block our blessing by playing it safe. Sometimes we hold on just a little to long, while God is telling you to let it go. Sometimes God is saying step out on faith and your saying "I'm waiting for God to give me a sign", but he did. It just wasn't the sign you wanted to see, so what do you do. Most of us sit back in the cut while others proceed to grow and we remain the same, same old drama and same old hardships. God isn't your personal Genie and he definitely don't work for you. He work with YOU.

Let me take it one step further "Feeling safe in an unsafe environment can kill you". People are dying slow deaths every day. People are dying from heart disease due to living and working in stressful environments. Women are rapidly aging, having strokes and remaining in a state of depression, because they are afraid to step out on there own. Is it really that serious Keepers!!  Are you really that afraid that you are willing to pay with your life. I guess (sometimes) you can say that "Playing It Safe" isn't  "SAFE" at all..

Chloe Womack

One-step at a time.

Learn to love yourself enough so that when someone enters your life that treats you negatively,you can stand up for yourself and have the strength to let them go. You can learn that it is okay to say no to anyone who is not willing to treat you with the love and respect you not only want, but also deserve. Have the courage to walk away from anything that does not serve you well. Search for your highest good.

You may be thinking right now, how do I go about this when I do not have the things that would make me content? What is in your world externally is nothing more than a mirror of what is going on internally. So to change the external vision of what your world appears to be, go within and change it there, then the outward vision will change to mirror the inward feelings.

Understand that every new path has a beginning and a first step. To pursue anything new, all you have to do is to take one-step at a time. And that is the step before you. If we learn to feel and believe that we have all that we desire and want in life and accept what has been granted to us, more will come.

It is all about appreciation and gratitude. If you could learn to appreciate and have gratitude by focusing on what is good in your life, more goodness will flow to you. If we complain that we do not have those things, then that is where our focus is and that is what we will continue to attract to us. If we think and imagine having the life we desire, and act and feel as we have it within, it is sure to appear before us.

When negative events occur in your life, if you look for the silver lining in the dark rain cloud, you will learn that good is always flowing toward you, if you have but the eyes to see it. And when you embrace the good that comes from that stormy rain cloud, you are transforming the energy of what you previously deemed as something negative into some positive. When you sing this new song, more “good” things can flow to you.


By Keeper Belinda Storey